Life offers many lessons for Leadership, and as the GCSE results for 2015 are released, it marks for many young people a key milestone in their educational lives which will soon turn into careers milestones and achievements.
Based on national figures, almost 7 in 10 achieved a grade C, but with A* grades dipping, some would have been disappointed.
How we (parents and caregivers) deal with these disappointments impact our children, and I truly believe that as, this may be just 1 of many disappointments or adversities that they may face in life, we can use these opportunities to develop strong leadership qualities in our children and help them to adopt positive attitudes and resilience to see them through to success and achievement of their goals and dreams.
Take a listen to learn more and see below for a few tips:
1. Modelling Behaviour and Attitudes:
Whether we like it or not, children learn from parents and adults around them. They are sponges that absorb our behaviour and use what they see to learn themselves, how to respond and react to their emotions. So when faced with adversity, if we accept defeat, then so will they.
Emotional intelligence is difficult to quantify but is it dictates our behaviour and how we make personal decisions. Modelling good emotional intelligence and showing problem solving skills, rather than defeatist behaviours and attitudes, will equip our young to develop these skills themselves, and then you can rest assured that they will learn how to overcome challenges and disappointments.
2. Let Children Solve Their Own Problems:
Leaders are self-sufficient, and don’t wait for others to direct or lead them. So when developing this quality in our children, we should remember to initially involve them in the decision making process, so that they can learn to take over.
So if they have not gained the GCSE results they want, encourage them to contact their college or UCAS themselves and speak for themselves, knowing they have our support and belief. Through these approaches they will learn to take action, be responsible and accountable, rather than self-deprecating or self-destructive.
3. Set Boundaries:
To succeed and develop core skills for dealing with life’s challenges, we all must learn to delay gratification and work hard for what we want and see as important. Our children also need to develop this type of patience which becomes very difficult when there are few boundaries and unearned praise. They may get upset when you say no, but they quickly recover. As adults it may be much more difficult to bounce back from adversity if they have never been challenged.
Children like dogs, can sniff out a liar, and so being authentic is key to bringing out the leaders in our children. All of us as adults within a community have a responsibility to show our children that we are not perfect, and we make mistakes; but we’re willing to learn from them, earn the respect of those around us and work to make improvements for ourselves as well as them.
They are the future leaders of this world, so let’s do what we can to equip them with the skills they need.